Chemistry: the interaction of one personality with another
If there's one tip I could give all brides and grooms to be, it would be to shop for good chemistry. No, not with each other....you already have that :)
You need to find it with your wedding vendors.
ALL OF THEM!!
But why, you ask???
Simply put - a wedding isn't just one day! Weddings take months, a year, or even more of planning. Your time is full of research, shopping, meetings, consultations, emails, phone calls and tastings. Planning a wedding can be a stressful time - especially in our work overloaded society. Trying to find time to squeeze in that meeting with you planner, or go visit your florist halfway across town can be tough....and tiring!! Making the necessary decisions can be frustrating at times.
This is why it's so important to have vendors that mesh well with you. It's so much more relaxing and fun to be working with someone who you 'click' with. The planning phase becomes less stressful and enjoyable - making the end result even more fantastic!!!!
The term "The joy is in the journey" truly applies to wedding planning.
So how do you find "chemistry"?? Back when I was planning my wedding (what feels like ages ago), I wasn't tuned into social networking. Actually, I don't know if it was even as prevalent as it is today. You brides have it GOOOD!!!!! Tap into those resources. They give you an outstanding view of your potential vendors. Twitter is great for seeing where they stand within their business communities and Facebook can help you scan interactions with their clients as well as photos and blogs. Both these online tools will help you start your research.
A good old phone call is another way to tell if you communicate well with someone. Email can be tricky - perfect for quick info - but sometimes a voice is so much more comforting.
Obviously the initial meeting is the most important factor. You can tell right away if you want to spend the next 10 months planning your cake, or flowers, or decor with an individual. They may be able to offer you the most luxurious of product - but if they have no people skills, then it may not be worth it. You want someone who would go that extra mile for you, do their best - and take your wedding day very personally.
I try my best to have this kind of relationship with all my brides and grooms. After all, they've chosen me to contribute to one of the most important days of their lives - that's a big honor....and a big job :)
There's no reason to feel overwhelmed or stressed in the days leading up to your special day. That's what good wedding professionals do...relieve the burden. So, try your best to search for those people who you really like. Trust me, it will be so very worth it!!!
I'll leave you with a photo of my most current wedding. A couple that I truly enjoyed working with. I wish them all the best that life has to offer!! xo